Hereby I introduce a new category: Opinion. Enjoy.
It was only last year that I read Lord of the Flies for the first time. Not only was I shocked by so much death, it made me wonder why I have never heard the obvious mentioned.
Sure, we covered it in high school in English class, I remember the conch and the spectacles and the rivalry, but it was only now that I read the whole thing.
And the obvious? There are no girls among those boys.
No girl would ever allow things to escalate that way.
If mothers were asked, no boy would ever go to war.
Men need women to call them out on their bullshit.
I’m the last person to divide humanity into gender boxes. In Italy, in many bars and restaurants, especially old and tiny ones, there is only one toilet. I couldn’t care less what you are packing as long as it’s not a gun. I’m happiest when I find myself enjoying a book, or a blog, not knowing the gender of the author.
But I do care about the survival of the species, and the world is rapidly and significantly losing the feminine principle (let’s call it that, I have a feeling someone already had). This manly world has gone on long enough.
I read yesterday about horses, specifically about “breaking a horse” as Maria Jansson writes is being done by cowboys for ages. My blood boiled a little because I was reminded of how dogs are broken. How children are broken. How girls are “taught a lesson”. How boys are sent to war. How some think this is the only way, the proper way. I love so much her reaction and her gentle way of spurring the horse’s own curiosity instead.
Mind you, I cannot understand either extreme: women who wish to strike out all the men, men who want to suppress all the women. You cannot just disregard one half of humanity! It’s like… like… pretending all those Americans who support Trump will just go away even if he is not elected.
I’m reminded of instances where women are praised for “playing like a man”, instead of simply for playing well. (This happened to me often during my decade of card tournaments). When women climb corporate (corporal too?) ladder, they tend to be more ruthless than men, they outman men. That’s why the Slovenian anthropologist, famous for her sharp tongue, said (paraphrased) that having more women as CEOs of companies is not good either for economy or these companies.
Once they gave an advanced mixed group of young pupils a difficult maths test with the idea of comparing results by gender (sorry, no source, I read about this long ago and it stuck). They were warned in advance of its difficulty. Boys did much better, it turned out. They were eager to complete the test in due time by solving as many tasks correctly as in their power, and dived into it hungrily.
Whereas girls… girls had a look at the questions, rolled their eyes a little, and thought on the inside: “But I know these!”
Can we please use this non-competing energy in a good way? Start to cooperate, listen to each other, do what each of us is good for and stop pretending we are all good for everything equally? Can we please all make it?
Here, have as many shells as necessary to hear all the voices. This was mine.
Location: Shell cemetery, between Ankaran and Port of Koper, Slovenia. End of December, 2015.
Photo: a © signature mmm production